قول "لا"

تقدم د. ليندسي دو، مقدمة قناة Sexplanations، مونولوجاً شخصياً حول قول "لا". تقدّر أنها قالت "نعم" للجنس نحو 7000 مرة خلال 23 عاماً من النشاط الجنسي، وتقول إن معظم تلك التجارب كانت إيجابية إلى حد كبير لأنها كانت تعرف كيف ترفض. توضح أن معرفة حدودها تساعدها على الشعور بالأمان عند تجربة ما تريده، وأن إجابة "لا أعرف" يمكن التعامل معها. وتضيف أن قول "لا" لا يضمن أن الآخرين سيحترمون الحدود، لكنه خطوة في رعاية الذات.

• تأمل شخصي في الموافقة وقول "لا"
• معرفة الحدود الشخصية أساس الشعور بالأمان
• قول "لا" لا يضمن احترام الآخرين للحدود

When I do a calculation of times I've said yes to sex, based on estimates of how often I've had sex in 23 years of being active, it's around 7000. Seven thousand yeses. I would say almost all of them were positive and this is in large part because I knew how to say no. A main reason the curious, adventurous parts of me can consent to intimate acts and new experiences is that I know my boundaries. I know when something is a yes because I also know when it would be a no. Or if it's an 'I don't know' I have ways of working out that decision. The sense and ability to reject offers or situations that I don't want helps me to feel safer trying what I do want. NOTE: that doesn't always mean that I am safer. Saying no doesn't guarantee that others will honor our limits but it is a start in caring for ourselves. This episode is slightly blurry, the sound and lighting are amateur due to my inexperience with the equipment, but Sexpla)inauts encouraged me to post it, so I said yes, trusting that they would have said no on publishing if they wanted to. Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : https://twitter.com/elleteedee TUMBLR : http://tumblingdoe.tumblr.com FACEBOOK : https://www.facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/sexplanations DFTBA : https://store.dftba.com/collections/sexplanations WEBSITE : http://sexplanations.com Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanations https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast