Saying No

Dra. Lindsey Doe, presentadora del canal Sexplanations, ofrece un monólogo personal sobre cómo decir no. Calcula que ha dicho que sí a tener sexo unas 7000 veces en 23 años de vida sexual activa, y afirma que la mayoría de esas experiencias fueron positivas en gran medida porque sabía cómo negarse. Explica que conocer sus límites le permite sentirse más segura al probar lo que quiere, y que un "no sé" puede resolverse con sus propias herramientas. Añade que decir no no garantiza que otros respeten los límites, pero es una forma de cuidarse a una misma.

• Reflexión personal sobre el consentimiento y decir no
• Conocer los propios límites como base para sentirse segura
• Decir no no garantiza que otros respeten los límites

When I do a calculation of times I've said yes to sex, based on estimates of how often I've had sex in 23 years of being active, it's around 7000. Seven thousand yeses. I would say almost all of them were positive and this is in large part because I knew how to say no. A main reason the curious, adventurous parts of me can consent to intimate acts and new experiences is that I know my boundaries. I know when something is a yes because I also know when it would be a no. Or if it's an 'I don't know' I have ways of working out that decision. The sense and ability to reject offers or situations that I don't want helps me to feel safer trying what I do want. NOTE: that doesn't always mean that I am safer. Saying no doesn't guarantee that others will honor our limits but it is a start in caring for ourselves. This episode is slightly blurry, the sound and lighting are amateur due to my inexperience with the equipment, but Sexpla)inauts encouraged me to post it, so I said yes, trusting that they would have said no on publishing if they wanted to. Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : https://twitter.com/elleteedee TUMBLR : http://tumblingdoe.tumblr.com FACEBOOK : https://www.facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/sexplanations DFTBA : https://store.dftba.com/collections/sexplanations WEBSITE : http://sexplanations.com Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanations https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast