La "force" qui nous traque | Aristotelis Vathis | TEDxDeree ACG

Les attentes rigides imposant aux garçons de devenir émotionnellement fermés, une "armure de fer", peuvent nuire à la santé mentale et aux relations des hommes. La conférence relie le stoïcisme masculin à la honte liée à la vulnérabilité, au retard dans la demande d'aide et à la dépression cachée. Elle cite un taux de suicide masculin deux à quatre fois supérieur à celui des femmes à l'échelle mondiale. Elle propose une approche plus concrète de la thérapie et une redéfinition de la force fondée sur l'ouverture.

• Normes de masculinité stoïque et santé mentale des hommes
• Honte liée à la vulnérabilité et évitement de l'aide
• Éducation émotionnelle des garçons et thérapie pratique

The talk is about the rigid societal expectations to act as an "iron box," forcing boys from a young age to adopt a mold of stoic, unemotional strength that severely harms their mental health and relationships. Because men are conditioned to equate vulnerability with shame, they frequently ignore warning signs, avoid seeking help, and suffer from hidden depression—contributing to a male suicide rate two to four times higher than women globally. This emotional armor not only isolates men from the warmth and communication necessary for long-term relationships, but it also strips away their psychological flexibility. To dismantle this harmful script, the talk calls for reframing therapy around practical functioning, teaching emotional literacy to young boys, and redefining heroism as the courage to be present, communicative, and human rather than permanently silent. Aristotle Vathis, MD, MSc, ECP is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist based in Athens, Greece, with training at the National and Kapodistrian University of Athens Medical School and a psychiatric residency at the Aiginiteion University Hospital. Holding the European Certificate of Psychotherapy (ECP) and trained in Systemic Psychotherapy, he brings deep clinical expertise in EMDR and trauma therapy — drawing on psychiatry, psychotherapy, and the psychological and social sciences to treat the whole person behind every diagnosis, always through an individualized lens. He challenges the deep-rooted stigmas that keep people from seeking mental health support, championing a more open and barrier-free approach to mental wellbeing. As the founder of www.therapia.gr and a frequent voice in Greek media, he is committed to making mental health knowledge accessible to everyone — especially those who have been taught to suffer in silence. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx