ノーと言うこと

Sexplanationsチャンネルのホスト、リンゼイ・ドー博士が、「ノー」と言うことについて個人的な語りを披露しています。性的に活動していた23年間で、性行為に「イエス」と答えた回数を約7000回と見積もり、その多くが前向きな経験だったのは、断り方を知っていたからだと話します。自分の境界線を知っていることで新しいことに安心して挑戦できること、「わからない」という場合にも判断の方法があることを説明しています。また、ノーと言っても相手が境界線を尊重する保証はないものの、自分を大切にする第一歩になると述べています。

• 同意と「ノー」と言うことについての個人的な考察
• 個人の境界線を知ることが安心感の土台になる
• ノーと言っても相手が尊重する保証はない

When I do a calculation of times I've said yes to sex, based on estimates of how often I've had sex in 23 years of being active, it's around 7000. Seven thousand yeses. I would say almost all of them were positive and this is in large part because I knew how to say no. A main reason the curious, adventurous parts of me can consent to intimate acts and new experiences is that I know my boundaries. I know when something is a yes because I also know when it would be a no. Or if it's an 'I don't know' I have ways of working out that decision. The sense and ability to reject offers or situations that I don't want helps me to feel safer trying what I do want. NOTE: that doesn't always mean that I am safer. Saying no doesn't guarantee that others will honor our limits but it is a start in caring for ourselves. This episode is slightly blurry, the sound and lighting are amateur due to my inexperience with the equipment, but Sexpla)inauts encouraged me to post it, so I said yes, trusting that they would have said no on publishing if they wanted to. Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : https://twitter.com/elleteedee TUMBLR : http://tumblingdoe.tumblr.com FACEBOOK : https://www.facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/sexplanations DFTBA : https://store.dftba.com/collections/sexplanations WEBSITE : http://sexplanations.com Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: https://www.patreon.com/sexplanations https://www.patreon.com/sexplanationspodcast