The Way You Love Is the Way You Lead | Varinka Bouma | TEDxCoolhaven Women

Leadership patterns often start in our closest relationships and carry into how we work. This TEDxCoolhaven Women talk by Varinka Bouma looks at how habits around trust, responsibility, conflict, control and connection can shape the way a person leads. Drawing on her work with leaders and relationships, the speaker describes patterns that do not stay within one area of life. The talk presents leadership as something formed long before a person takes on a formal role.

• How relational patterns from close relationships influence leadership
• Trust, responsibility, conflict, control and connection at work
• Leadership as shaped long before taking on a formal role

How the relational patterns we develop in our closest relationships travel with us into leadership - shaping how we handle trust, responsibility, conflict, control and connection. Varinka Bouma is a leadership voice exploring the quiet connection between how we love and how we lead. Through her work with leaders and relationships, she has noticed patterns that don’t stay in one domain, they follow us everywhere. Her talk offers a grounded reflection on leadership: something shaped long before we step into a role. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx