自分を選ぶ許可 | Anoushkaa Gireesh | TEDxThe Gaudium School

なぜ「ノー」と言うことは、しばしば裏切りのように感じられるのでしょうか。Anoushkaa Gireeshによるこのテッドックスの講演は、自分が必要とするものと、必要としてよいと思えるものの間にあるずれを取り上げています。自分を大切にすることと他人を大切にすることは本当に対立するのか、そして自分を選んだときに罪悪感が生じるのはなぜかを問いかけます。講演は、親切とは何かを考え直すよう促します。出典：TEDx Talks。

• 個人的なニーズと許可の感覚のずれ
• 自己ケアと他者へのケアは対立するのか
• 自分を選んだときに罪悪感が生じる理由

Why does saying “no” often feel like a betrayal? From childhood, we’re taught that being good means being easy: agreeable, available, helpful. Somewhere, kindness stops being a choice and becomes an expectation, and putting ourselves first starts to feel like something we need permission for. This TEDx talk examines the invisible gap between what we need and what we believe we’re allowed to need, whether caring for yourself and caring for others are really in conflict, and why guilt shows up the moment we choose ourselves. Part reflection, part conversation, this talk invites you to rethink what it truly means to be kind. Anoushkaa Gireesh, a CBSE Grade 10 student, treats every day conversation like it's being filmed for a sitcom — complete with comedic timing and the occasional dramatic pause for effect. A chronic collector of hobbies, she spends her time sketching, dancing, playing piano, and snapping photos (despite a phone that's always out of storage from hundreds of near-identical shots she can't bear to delete). If that doesn’t fill her week, she’s also a competitive basketball and kho kho player. As a committed debater, she believes every good idea deserves a good argument — and she won’t stop until she’s made one. Now, as a speaker for TEDxTGS, she’s excited to bring that same blend of precision, thoughtfulness, and heart to the stage. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx